Ladies it’s not fair to hold onto someone that's hurt you, if you can’t find it in your mind and heart to forgive them. Let them go! The pain of their actions may not have been fair to you, but your attitude, anger and the venom you spit, because of the past is not fair to him. So why stay if you can't forgive and forget. It's like saying I'm going to love you, but on my terms, so when the memories come back or If I don't like something you do going forward, I can just dig into my memory bank and hit you with the drama.
Don’t get mad at the messenger, because you don’t deserve it either. It takes a strong woman to walk away and set someone free. It’s easier to stay, but it’s not conducive to your growth.. You just learned an amazing lesson and acquired a skill that will get you through anything and that’s the ability to let go of what no longer contribute to the betterment of your growth spiritually, mentally and physically.. It's called facing fears and confronting issues head on. You're thinking about the big picture. Not just what you're ego want, but what you deserve “Happiness”.
Hang this statement somewhere you can see it. “Loving myself means letting go.”