Chloe Womack - Helping Women, Become Their Dream Woman, By Loving Themselves 365
Follow me on Facebook or Twitter
  • Home
    • About
  • Chloe's Thoughts (Blogs)
    • Self-Love Blog
    • Recipes
    • Lifestyle
  • YouTube
  • Shop
    • Store
  • Book Referral
  • Organizations

Dear Daughter

1/16/2015

8 Comments

 
Picture
While hanging out with a couple of friends someone asked me "Well Ms. Got it all together, out of everything you've learned about relationships what's the one main thing would you share with your daughter?" Well my first response which I made with a big smile on my face is "I'm far from having my stuff together", but I've learned somethings that help me walk my walk while I talk my talk. But a sister have a long ways to go and to answer her question I responded with "Hurt people, hurt people". 

I decided years ago that I would never say anything bad about my ex husband to my children. Heck, I don't talk bad about him to anyone, because he's part of my past and every lesson there was for him to teach me I accepted, received and got over it. Here's a little side note that may help you understand this a little better "Attention goes where energy flows". If you're constantly living in your past, that's exactly where you'll stay. My thirst for growth and knowledge would never allow me to stay stagnant or live a life of mediocrity, but getting back to my answer.

Since my daughter read my work I'll speak directly to her. My Sweet Princess, hurt people, hurt people. We are only responsible for what we contribute to a relationship and should never take on the insecurities, hurt and pain of others. I'm not saying we shouldn't be supportive, but we have to be so in tuned with our mind, body and spirit to recognize a toxic relationship when we stumble upon one. Unfortunately, hurt people don't wear a sign on their faces and aren't that easy to spot until their hurt and pain start affecting your energy. I believe that we have no control over the people we attract, but I do believe we're responsible for how we allow others to deposit and make withdrawals from our mind, body and spirit. Unfortunately/fortunately I've only been in two real relationships in my entire life, but I'm also a life/living coach and have seen and heard it all in reference to relationships and one thing I know for sure is every hurt, insecure or arrogant man eventually will show you who they are, but by then most women are normally in the "Oh I love him phase and are willing to accept damaged goods instead of having to hit the dating scene again" and you know what, once you decide to stay after that you've decided to take ownership of the problem and can't blame anyone but yourself for what happens going forward. 



I could of taken the easy way out and responded with some type of man bashing answer, but that's not what I try to teach my children. My goal is to raise loving, but responsible children or should I say adults. I'm at wits end with women accusing men for their problems. It's ownership time and the only way to own up to our bad choices is to become whole and knowledgeable. I challenge each and every women to make a list of everything they want in a man. Go ahead, please make your list before you read anything else. Now, take a look at that list and answer this question. Do you have the qualities you seek. If you do, I applaud you if you don't I made my point and you have work to do before you try to enter any union/relationship. We have to become the person we seek. It's nothing like getting in a relationship and depending on your mate to compensate for something you should be able to give or do yourself. 


Chloe "Rocks"


Don't forget to like!!! 



8 Comments
Su(e)Diyg
1/16/2015 10:16:33 am

Toughest lesson i ever had to learn...but AsTheySay, better LATE than NEVER. As a LifeLong, extremely WellTrained codependent, it took me yeeeaaars to discover what i wanted, as opposed to what i was Sick&Tired of getting. Took me many MORE years to realize that, no matter HOW kindly or lovingly you treat those close to you, ultimately you must begin with YOURSELF. Back in'a daaay, when Whitney Houston's "The Greatest Love of All" first hit the airwaves, i QuiteFrankly didn't "get" the lyrics: i truly thought it referred to SELFish LOVE, not SELF LOVE...& it appeared to me to be a call for even more selfishness than i'd already come across thus far in my life. It wasn't until i'd divorced, married again a few years later, had a baby, & realized before my son's 1st birthday that his father was not only TOXIC & DANGEROUS, & furthermore, was NEVER GOING TO CHANGE, that i got out, moved some 3800 miles across the country to start over, & spent the next 2 decades working on ME while raising HIM. Fast forward enough years to be LegalEverywhere, & just 2 years ago, i LetGoOf a long-standing friendship that had become INSTANTLY toxic to me practically the minute i said i could no longer help this person...& although my life has much better & more healthy basic boundaries than it used to, i've still got a ways to go...Peace&BeBlest, Chloe :)

Reply
Chloe
1/16/2015 10:28:17 am

Thanks Sis!! I love reading your comments! Xo

Reply
Su(e) Diyg
1/21/2015 08:49:50 am

Yw...;)

Iesha Bryant
1/21/2015 06:03:06 am

I wish I had a comment for you......I'm just speechless! WOW...

Reply
Chloe
1/21/2015 07:13:26 am

I just THANK YOU for always being supportive.. Xo

Reply
Su(e) Diyg
1/21/2015 08:56:21 am

We sisters gotta stick together, Chloe...;)

Su(e) Diyg
1/21/2015 08:55:13 am

Ty, Iesha...i promised the fellow DV survivors i met in shelter on the way here that i'd one day write my memoir...& i'm finally at the place in life where i can work on it...my son is almost 23 now...:)

Reply
Insect Pest Control Palmdale link
8/25/2022 12:50:46 am

Niice blog you have

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Click to purchase
    Picture

    Author

    Chloe Womack is the name, and I'm living my life like it's GOLDEN. Too bad I can't sing! God has blessed me with a host of other talents to make up for it. I'm an Author, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Radio Host. So why did I decide to write a Blog? Because there are so many other parts of Chloe that I would like to share. Sometimes I just want to take off the work clothes, and makeup and just be me. So here it is, WELCOME TO MY WORLD!

    Like me On Facebook
    Like Me on Instagram
    Follow Me On Twitter

    Archives

    April 2018
    August 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    March 2014
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    July 2012
    June 2012
    May 2012
    October 2011

    Categories

    All
    Beyonce
    Chloe
    Chloe Womack
    Leadership
    Leave Clues
    Life Coach
    Living My Life Like It
    Living My Life Like It\
    Living My Life Like It\
    Mood
    Prayer
    Self Help
    Success
    Ten Random Things To Know About Me
    Transferring Of Energy
    Womack
    Words
    Writers
    Yes I Am My Sisters Keeper

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.