While hanging out with a couple of friends someone asked me "Well Ms. Got it all together, out of everything you've learned about relationships what's the one main thing would you share with your daughter?" Well my first response which I made with a big smile on my face is "I'm far from having my stuff together", but I've learned somethings that help me walk my walk while I talk my talk. But a sister have a long ways to go and to answer her question I responded with "Hurt people, hurt people".
I decided years ago that I would never say anything bad about my ex husband to my children. Heck, I don't talk bad about him to anyone, because he's part of my past and every lesson there was for him to teach me I accepted, received and got over it. Here's a little side note that may help you understand this a little better "Attention goes where energy flows". If you're constantly living in your past, that's exactly where you'll stay. My thirst for growth and knowledge would never allow me to stay stagnant or live a life of mediocrity, but getting back to my answer.
Since my daughter read my work I'll speak directly to her. My Sweet Princess, hurt people, hurt people. We are only responsible for what we contribute to a relationship and should never take on the insecurities, hurt and pain of others. I'm not saying we shouldn't be supportive, but we have to be so in tuned with our mind, body and spirit to recognize a toxic relationship when we stumble upon one. Unfortunately, hurt people don't wear a sign on their faces and aren't that easy to spot until their hurt and pain start affecting your energy. I believe that we have no control over the people we attract, but I do believe we're responsible for how we allow others to deposit and make withdrawals from our mind, body and spirit. Unfortunately/fortunately I've only been in two real relationships in my entire life, but I'm also a life/living coach and have seen and heard it all in reference to relationships and one thing I know for sure is every hurt, insecure or arrogant man eventually will show you who they are, but by then most women are normally in the "Oh I love him phase and are willing to accept damaged goods instead of having to hit the dating scene again" and you know what, once you decide to stay after that you've decided to take ownership of the problem and can't blame anyone but yourself for what happens going forward.
I could of taken the easy way out and responded with some type of man bashing answer, but that's not what I try to teach my children. My goal is to raise loving, but responsible children or should I say adults. I'm at wits end with women accusing men for their problems. It's ownership time and the only way to own up to our bad choices is to become whole and knowledgeable. I challenge each and every women to make a list of everything they want in a man. Go ahead, please make your list before you read anything else. Now, take a look at that list and answer this question. Do you have the qualities you seek. If you do, I applaud you if you don't I made my point and you have work to do before you try to enter any union/relationship. We have to become the person we seek. It's nothing like getting in a relationship and depending on your mate to compensate for something you should be able to give or do yourself.
Chloe "Rocks"
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I decided years ago that I would never say anything bad about my ex husband to my children. Heck, I don't talk bad about him to anyone, because he's part of my past and every lesson there was for him to teach me I accepted, received and got over it. Here's a little side note that may help you understand this a little better "Attention goes where energy flows". If you're constantly living in your past, that's exactly where you'll stay. My thirst for growth and knowledge would never allow me to stay stagnant or live a life of mediocrity, but getting back to my answer.
Since my daughter read my work I'll speak directly to her. My Sweet Princess, hurt people, hurt people. We are only responsible for what we contribute to a relationship and should never take on the insecurities, hurt and pain of others. I'm not saying we shouldn't be supportive, but we have to be so in tuned with our mind, body and spirit to recognize a toxic relationship when we stumble upon one. Unfortunately, hurt people don't wear a sign on their faces and aren't that easy to spot until their hurt and pain start affecting your energy. I believe that we have no control over the people we attract, but I do believe we're responsible for how we allow others to deposit and make withdrawals from our mind, body and spirit. Unfortunately/fortunately I've only been in two real relationships in my entire life, but I'm also a life/living coach and have seen and heard it all in reference to relationships and one thing I know for sure is every hurt, insecure or arrogant man eventually will show you who they are, but by then most women are normally in the "Oh I love him phase and are willing to accept damaged goods instead of having to hit the dating scene again" and you know what, once you decide to stay after that you've decided to take ownership of the problem and can't blame anyone but yourself for what happens going forward.
I could of taken the easy way out and responded with some type of man bashing answer, but that's not what I try to teach my children. My goal is to raise loving, but responsible children or should I say adults. I'm at wits end with women accusing men for their problems. It's ownership time and the only way to own up to our bad choices is to become whole and knowledgeable. I challenge each and every women to make a list of everything they want in a man. Go ahead, please make your list before you read anything else. Now, take a look at that list and answer this question. Do you have the qualities you seek. If you do, I applaud you if you don't I made my point and you have work to do before you try to enter any union/relationship. We have to become the person we seek. It's nothing like getting in a relationship and depending on your mate to compensate for something you should be able to give or do yourself.
Chloe "Rocks"
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