#3 Never lose yourself in another person.
This can be tricky if you don’t know how to love yourself to begin with. Most people (not all) that lose themselves in a relationship do so because they are trying to get something from the other person in return; and nine times out of ten it’s not physical it’s emotional. Most people give what they want in return. Let me rephrase that. Most WOMEN give what they want in return and it’s nothing wrong with that.
Problems come into play when you start giving to much of yourself. Most women give more of themselves than necessary. I’ve been there so let me explain further to give you that “AHA” moment. When you started the relationship you was focused and driven you were running every morning, praying noon and night, doing the things you enjoyed, focused on your career and goals, dedicating me time, going to bed on time and the list goes on and on. Then all of a sudden you met this man and you want to show him how interested you are, so every time he calls you answer, you cancel your normal appointments to spend time with him, you stay on the phone all night instead of getting the rest you need, your off time becomes his time and slowly but surely you start to lose yourself. What happen to the woman who use to enjoy doing things on her own, the woman who had a life outside of her mate, and the woman who knew to put God before any man? What happen to “YOUR LIFE”?
You became needy. I need to hear your voice; I need to be around you, I need you to make me happy, I need you to make me smile, I need you, I need you. To tell the truth you’re messing up the flow of things. You have to continue being who you are, because you’re giving off the wrong signals, because soon as the new relationship scent dies you’re complaining about why we don’t go anywhere, why you don’t call me like you use too, why, why, why.
Now pay attention, the funny thing about men is, they will call you when their available and if they’re not they will let you know “I’ll call you back later”. If a man has plans nine times out of ten they will not cancel them to just chill. A man won’t stop taking his friends calls because you’re around. A man will not meet a woman and start immediately thinking about tomorrow, but most women have already started thinking about next year.
This is where I have to agree with Steve Harvey “Think like a Man”. Continue to do what makes you happy and stop giving up who you are to please someone else, because most of the time they didn’t ask you too, you were already willing and able. Unfortunately, when he doesn't give up his life for you, you become angry and it's not fair. You lost yourself in him, he didn’t lose himself in you. Never lose yourself in ANOTHER.
This is not a blog that I want you to carry in your mind like a guide to dating 101, this is just something for you to think about. If it speaks to you than I hope you receive it, if not then so be it ;). Not everything is for everybody. Blog with me!!